A few days ago, Khloe Kardashian posted a guide on her app to looking thin AF in your pictures- and my eye rolling ability went off the charts.
Khloe claims to be an advocate for the pioneering Body Positivity moment which is very obviously NOT about thinness and the privilege it can bring, but simply to shine a bright light on female bodies (and specifically highlight the beauty of fat bodies) Yet again this message which many people are hijacking and diluting, has been conveniently forgotten about to push a thin agenda.
Khloe is synonymous with the term “revenge body”, which meant undergoing a considerable period of fat loss and changing her body shape dramatically. The “revenge” was in response to the breakdown of her marriage, and many people will be well versed in the “phoenix from the flames” effect that many of us go through post break up. We start to feel we weren’t good enough, and perhaps if we had been thinner/prettier/more fun then the breakup would never have happened. Essentially- the term “revenge body” seems to indicate that you need to change yourself entirely to be desirable. This, my intelligent and already beautiful reader, is bollocks.
My main concern with specifically the timing of Khloe’s post is that she is currently pregnant. Having given birth myself 3.5 years ago, I have a huge problem with pregnant woman being reminded that even during pregnancy- the ONE sacred time in our lives where we are socially excused from not being a perfect weight- that they MUST conform to a thin and therefore desirable body type. During my own pregnancy I seemed to gain weight from literally the second I weed on that stick (TMI sorry) and I then had to endure comments about my changing body pretty much every day of my pregnancy. I had to listen to comments like “WOW are you ONLY four months? Your bump is HUGE!” and then when I had given birth- “Don’t worry the weight will just FALL off now if you breastfeed” Diet culture and the obsession with thinness has even managed to firmly wedge itself within pregnancy. It can be hard enough to accept your changing body shape but also that you have little or no control over it- and women need to be allowed to be concerned only with the health of the pregnancy, NOT a fucking Instagram selfie.
Why does this even MATTER? Is our beauty and self worth really defined by how ‘thin’ we look in our pictures? The Kardashian's phenomenal reach and influence means that millions of men and woman around the world are now going to be looking at their photos and worrying about how they look. For me, to have that level of influence and to use it to make people feel worse about themselves is shameful.
People are judged constantly. Every minute of every day, diet culture screams at us from multiple media sources that we need to constantly be fixated on our appearance and that we must strive only for thinness. So perhaps KK, as a “body positive” advocate, perhaps it’s time to refresh your message and remind us its ok to NOT look thin AF?